VICTORY OVER UNCONTROLLED ANGER

BY PASTOR T. O. BANSO

“People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness” (Proverbs 14:29 NLT).

Anger is a natural emotion, but it could become explosive if you don’t control it. You will say what you are not supposed to say before you realize it. You will regret it later but sometimes the consequences may be irreversible. Don’t let uncontrolled anger destroy your life – marriage, career, destiny, or relationships.

Some situations or actions can make you angry. But you must never allow anger to control you, otherwise, you will sin. People may do things that will make you angry but always control your anger.

James 1:19 says to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Be in control of your temper; don’t let your temper control you. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “‘Be angry, and do not sin’: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil” (NKJV).

This scripture tells you to control yourself when you are angry so that you don’t sin. Don’t sin in your anger. The scripture also says you should not be angry for too long; you should put away your anger before nightfall or sunset, or before you go to bed. You should not give room to the devil.

The New Living Translation puts it this way: “And ‘don’t sin by letting anger control you.’ Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” The phrase “Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry” means not to continue in your anger. Don’t carry over your anger to the next day. To give a foothold to the devil means to give a place to the devil. As the Amplified Bible puts it, do not give the devil an opportunity to lead you into sin. The Amplified Bible renders Ephesians 4:26-27 thus: “Be angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down. And do not give the devil an opportunity [to lead you into sin by holding a grudge, or nurturing anger, or harboring resentment, or cultivating bitterness].”

Paul continued in Ephesians 4:31-32:  “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you” (NKJV). Put away the anger that makes you sin.

Uncontrolled anger allows the devil to lead you to sin. If you give the devil an inch, he will take a mile. Once you give place to the devil, he takes charge. You are no longer in control of what happens. That’s why people regret their actions later and say, “It’s the devil.” They realize their folly that despite what someone did that provoked them, their actions were indefensible. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Don’t sin in your anger.

People can do something to God, other human beings, or you that you may have to express your displeasure over. But don’t fly off the handle; don’t lose your temper; don’t lose control of your emotions. Don’t express your anger in an uncontrolled manner that you take an action that is worse than what you’re angry about. Be angry but do not sin. The Contemporary English Version puts Ephesians 4:26-27 this way: “Don’t get so angry that you sin. Don’t go to bed angry and don’t give the devil a chance.”

Uncontrolled anger is a sin. It’s so bad that sometimes others are pleading with uncontrollably angry people, but they can’t see that the people are only trying to save them from themselves and the devil! Don’t be angry without justifiable cause and don’t let the expression of your anger exceed a reasonable limit such that you harm yourself and others or refuse to forgive. Avoid speaking harsh words that you may regret later. This is how to ensure that you don’t sin when you’re angry.

Prolonging your anger will mean that you have violated the Word of God to forgive, especially as Jesus emphasized in His teachings. And if you don’t forgive others their trespasses, God won’t forgive you yours. You should resolve your differences with others and forgive from your heart (Matthew 6:12-15; 18:21-35; Mark 11:25-26; Luke 11:4). Forgive, and you will be forgiven (Luke 6:37b). Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came to Him and said, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven’” (NKJV). If you forgive, you won’t be guilty of uncontrolled anger.

Psalm 4:4, which the Apostle Paul referred to in Ephesians 4:26, says, Tremble [with anger or fear], and do not sin; meditate in your heart upon your bed and be still [reflect on your sin and repent of your rebellion]” (AMP). Don’t lie on your bed, continuing to be angry. Repent. Gain victory over uncontrolled anger; don’t give place to the devil. “Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret—it only causes harm” (Psalm 37:8 NKJV). Don’t go to bed with angry feelings, which can lead to bitterness and revenge.

Anger is an emotion that you must continually deal with, with the help of the Holy Spirit, because what will make you angry will happen from time to time. You may be angry but make sure you don’t get so angry that you sin. Don’t go to bed angry.

You can’t have the problem of uncontrolled anger in your life and enjoy fellowship with God. Anger is also linked to some health conditions, including headaches, sleeplessness, high blood pressure, heart attack, depression, digestive problems, and a weak immune system. Therefore, control your anger. Be angry and don’t sin.

What to do:

1. Acknowledge that uncontrolled anger is a sin and don’t make excuses for it.

2. Admit that uncontrolled anger is a problem in your life and confess your sin about past and current anger.

3. Apologize to those you have been uncontrollably angry with or you are currently angry with without cause or beyond cause.

4. Resolve your differences and forgive from your heart (Matthew 18:35). Forgiveness is in your interest. Even if those who made you angry don’t ask for forgiveness, forgive them. Forgiveness is different from reconciliation or restoration of a relationship, which depends a lot on the offender.

5. Expect that some people won’t always behave the way you want them to; they’ll sometimes do what will make you angry, so forgive them in advance.

6. Don’t take everything too seriously. Some people easily get angry over little things and overreact. Don’t be angry for no just cause and manage your anger.

7. Study and meditate on what the Bible says about uncontrolled anger. This will help you to avoid it. For example, Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool” (NLT). Do you want to be labelled a fool?

8. Pray to God for victory over uncontrolled anger and depend on the Holy Spirit to help you.

9. Walk in love. 1 Corinthians 13:5b says love is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs.

10. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, “Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools” (NKJV). Don’t be a fool.

11. If you feel anger rising in you, take some precautionary actions to avoid an angry outburst. You may refuse to say a word, leave the place, leave the person making you angry, or calm down yourself by telling yourself that you refuse to be angry in Jesus’ name. This is not about suppressing or bottling up your anger which can lead to bitterness. It is about trying to express your anger without sinning. Find the right time to talk with the person on the issue later when you’ve calmed down.

12. If you’re angry and somebody tries to calm you down, respond positively and stop being angry. Even God forgives, so why shouldn’t you? His anger lasts only a moment (Psalm 30:5a). “Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs” (Proverbs 19:11 NLT). The New King James Version says it like this: “The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.”

13. Don’t go to bed without ending your anger. But don’t wait till you go to bed before you stop being angry. Don’t bring today’s anger into tomorrow. If you don’t stop being angry, it can lead to bitterness, giving birth to different kinds of evil.

Conclusion: People can provoke you, but you can refuse to be angry and avoid sinning when you are angry. Don’t blame anyone for your anger; blame yourself.

Proverbs 14:29 says, “People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness” (NLT). Don’t be a fool! Control your anger. The Living Bible says Proverbs 14:29 this way: “A wise man controls his temper. He knows that anger causes mistakes.” Don’t lose your temper; control it. “Losing your temper is foolish; ignoring an insult is smart” (Proverbs 12:16 CEV). Don’t be foolish; control your temper or anger. “Don’t be a fool and quickly lose your temper- be sensible and patient” (Proverbs 29:11 CEV). Also, Proverbs 16:32 says, He who is slow to anger is better than a warrior, and he who controls his temper is greater than one who captures a city” (BSB).

In Numbers 20:7-13, uncontrolled anger made Moses not enter the Promised Land. Moses was angry because of the attitude of the children of Israel who complained because they had no water to drink. While angry, he called the Israelites rebels and struck the rock twice, contrary to God’s instruction that he should speak to the rock. Psalm 106:33 says, “They made Moses angry, and he spoke foolishly” (NLT). God didn’t allow Moses to enter the Promised Land because he did not believe Him to hallow Him in the eyes of the children of Israel. Consequently, He said Moses and Aaron would not bring the Israelites into the land He had given them. They didn’t.

Strive to gain victory over anger every time. Victory now does not mean victory forever. You must continue to work at victory over uncontrolled anger. Don’t be angry without and beyond cause; don’t be angry in a sinful way; don’t be angry for too long. Stop your anger and give no room to the devil to lead you to harbour resentment or bitterness. This means you must walk in love and forgive.

TAKE ACTION!

If you are not born again, you need to give your life to Jesus now. I urge you to take the following steps: *Admit that you are a sinner and cannot save yourself, and repent of your sins. *Confess Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. *Renounce your past way of life – your relationship with the devil and his works. *Invite Jesus into your life. *As a mark of seriousness to mature in the faith, start attending a Bible-believing and Bible-teaching church. There they will teach you how to grow in the Kingdom of God.

Kindly say this prayer now: O Lord God, I come unto You today. I know I am a sinner, and I cannot save myself.  I believe that Jesus is the Son of God who died on the cross to save me and God raised Him on the third day. I repent of my sins and confess Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. I surrender my life to Jesus now and invite Him into my heart. By this prayer, I know I am saved. Thank You, Jesus, for saving me and making me a child of God.

I believe you have said this prayer from your heart. Congratulations! You need to join a Bible-believing and Bible-teaching church in your area where they will teach you how to live your new life in Christ Jesus. I pray that you flourish like a palm tree and grow like a cedar of Lebanon. May you grow into Christ in all things and become all God wants you to be. I will be glad to hear from you. The Lord be with you you.

T. O. Banso is the President of Cedar Ministry International, Abuja, Nigeria.
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